Teddi Mellencamp Tearfully Addresses Edwin Arroyave’s Alleged Affair — and Her Personal: ‘Was Most cancers My Payback?’

The Actual Housewives of Beverly Hills alum opened up on the August 5 episode of The Jamie Kern Lima Present, addressing rumors that her estranged husband Edwin had an affair — and revealing that she, too, engaged in an alleged relationship with horse coach Simon Schroeder in the course of the closing chapter of their 13-year marriage.

“Did I do issues that harm different individuals? Sure,” Mellencamp stated via tears. “I’ve by no means talked about it in any respect, simply due to the children, and I’ve by no means needed anyone to have a assure whether or not it occurred or did not occur.”

And whereas Mellencamp is taking accountability for the errors she made in her marriage to Edwin, it was her ex’s alleged infidelity — which reportedly occurred 10 years in the past, simply earlier than the pair made their debut on RHOBH — that actually “broke her.” She claimed the opposite lady “referred to as me and advised me,” days earlier than filming started.

“It was with any individual I knew. I imply, I am not saying that I did not make large errors, and in my marriage put up that, however that broke me. That was the primary time in my life the place I used to be like, how will I present up each day with a smile on my face and lift these youngsters, and be this good spouse and begin a tv present and turn into any individual that folks like or they assume are humorous?” Mellencamp recalled. “Or if individuals say, ‘why? Why do you appear completely different than once you have been in your first season of Housewives? Like after we take heed to your podcast?’ And I by no means actually open up about it, however that is why, that is what I used to be going via my first season on Housewives.”

She continued, “So individuals say, ‘Oh, you appear sort of quiet, or You are sort of passive, or, however that is not likely who you might be.’ And I used to be like, ‘Properly, I wasn’t faking who I used to be, I used to be coping.'” Added Teddi: ” I needed to beg Edwin to wanna stick with me. I needed to beg him. [00:14:10] He, I do not assume he was in love with me at that time.”

Experiences of Edwin’s infidelity surfaced as rumors swirled in late 2024 that Mellencamp had grown near Schroeder, who was additionally going via a separation. On the time, Mellencamp had simply filed for divorce from Arroyave on November 1, citing irreconcilable variations.

Schroeder’s ex-wife, Karli Schroeder, filed for divorce weeks in a while December 30, citing irreconcilable variations after rumors of his alleged relationship with Mellencamp broke.

Though Schroeder has by no means publicly addressed the alleged affair, Mellencamp acknowledged the ache attributable to the hypothesis and her personal actions.

“To today, does it nonetheless harm my coronary heart and I’m wondering if that is why I obtained most cancers? Sure, prefer it was my payback,” she stated, referencing her stage 4 melanoma analysis, which has since unfold to her mind and lungs. “Nothing goes with out fee.”

The fallout from each alleged affairs, she stated, impacted extra than simply their instant household.

“You are attempting to attenuate everyone’s ache. You find yourself maximizing it,” Mellencamp defined. “As a result of not solely do you may have your self, you may have your important different, your youngsters, the opposite particular person’s important different, their youngsters.”

Wanting again on that point, Mellencamp admitted she was “so damaged as a human being” and was coping with intense bodily signs that hadn’t but been identified.

“Keep in mind how I advised you there have been like months of complications and stuff like that? I used to be in search of consolation anyplace I can get it,” she stated, referencing the “extreme and debilitating complications” that led to the invention of her mind tumors. “I felt a lot ache. I felt so sick. I did not go to the docs… the ache was a lot that I had gotten to the purpose of virtually hating waking up within the morning.”

Nonetheless, she’s not inserting blame on her sickness. “I wasn’t myself, however I am not going accountable all of it on that,” she shared. “A bunch of issues occurred in my life throughout the identical time, and I had zero management of any of them. Like I simply was operating round like a hen with my head reduce off.”

She acknowledged the chaos and “wreckage” that adopted each emotionally and publicly: “So many individuals are harm within the wreckage. However I can say this from figuring out — the wreckage would not occur by itself.”

Regardless of the breakdown of their marriage and the divorce submitting, Mellencamp and Arroyave stay on good phrases, significantly within the wake of her well being disaster. The 2 paused divorce proceedings after her analysis and proceed to cohabitate whereas she undergoes remedy.

“I at all times knew he’d do the fitting factor by me,” Mellencamp stated. “If he needed to, he might nonetheless be submitting and ending this divorce off proper now. However my dad [John Mellencamp] and household simply stated like, ‘I do not assume that is the fitting factor for her to attempt to navigate proper now.'”

Though she referred to Edwin as her “ex-husband,” Mellencamp clarified, “I do not know what you name any individual you have been married to, then you definitely filed for divorce, and then you definitely obtained most cancers, so then every part went on maintain.”

“To today, I do not hate Edwin,” she added. “I simply need him to be joyful, and I need our children to be joyful, and I need us to have the ability to have an excellent friendship and relationship, and I do not wish to do something to harm him. I sort of know the way our marriage works.”